at first click

Ok, so this is going to be a blog about dissecting the date I was just on.

Granted, I tweeted that it was the worst date ever, but I may had exaggerated, which is why I deleted it.  It wasn’t that bad.  I just wasn’t ready to entertain a child.  I guess you could say that it was a learning experience more than anything.

I had been talking to this girl for the past two weeks off and on.  She text me every morning…I usually get around to responding after lunch. 

I am not the fastest responder in text message as I used to be.  Either I just don’t care as much about her or I have changed.  Either way, it doesn’t matter to her I guess.

Anyway, I was thinking about what I was going to do for dinner tonight and felt like going out somewhere nice.  Of course, you can’t go somewhere nice alone or you just look like a loser.  So, I decided to invite her out to dinner.  Though I didn’t get off until 8 pm, she agreed.

It wasn’t until I got to her house that she shocked me that she was bringing her 2, almost 3, daughter.  Ok, I thought to myself, quick dinner change.  The place I had originally chosen was not “child” friendly.

We ended up at Chili’s.  It took time for her daughter to warm up to me, but as soon as I started throwing chips at her, she began to like me very quickly.  I mean, who wouldn’t.

So we ate, played, and then went for ice crème.  Went back to their house, watched a little bit Aladdin, then I left so she could put her daughter to bed.

I never knew how tiring a child could be, especially after a full day of work.  Is this parenthood?  I want children; do not take this blog as my refusal of children or even dating a woman with a child, I just was not expecting this tonight. 

Those who know me well know I don’t like change of plans at the last minute.  So when she opened the door holding her daughter you can imagine the anxiety level I was feeling.

Now, on to the mom. 

She is a sweet woman.  She worships the ground I walk on a little too much.  She is moving to Yukon next week and telling me how easy of a drive it will be for me to visit her.  Um….?  Yea, let’s take one thing at a time. 

She is a Christian.  She doesn’t drink, drink. She curses minimal.  She doesn’t read books like I do though.  She would rather be out with friends in her free time then sitting at Starbucks reading. 

Maybe the problem is I am boring?

All my jokes go over her head.  She is not the brightest bulb on the block.  She is really “book” smart.  Common sense though, she could use some help.

I guess the main thing I didn’t see was a relationship with God.  I talked to her about mine, which she felt bad after ordering a drink.  I told her that it was no big deal and that I don’t drink hard liquor anymore, just beer and wine on occasion.

She says that she wants a family that goes to church together, but I wonder why she isn’t now.  Yea, I know she is a single mom, but if that is what you want, maybe you should start now. 

I want a woman of God, so should I wait going to church until I find one?  I don’t think so…

Now that I look back on it, I am kind of glad her daughter was there, I have no idea what we would have talked about if we were alone.

Don’t get me wrong, this woman is very sweet and I can tell she loves her daughter to death.  She does an amazing job being a single mom without the father in the picture.  This is good, because supposedly he beat her.

I just didn’t feel that click.  I am such a first date kind of person.  If I don’t feel it on the first date, then it is hard for me to go back in for a second.  The first click has not led me wrong yet, but it has been awhile since I have felt it.  Maybe I should see if there is a second date click.

I like the first click better though...

Well, guess ill read some and go to bed.  I'm Reading Christian Atheist by Craig Groeschel right now.  I love it so far.  If you have a chance, pick it up.  It's a must for your library if you like those of Erwin McManus and Donald Miller.