Just visited and had a long talk with my friend Melissa from Tulsa. Known each other for ten years now. I have watched as she has taken every wrong turn imaginable and yet she blames others for her problems.
She is moving back in with her ex-husband of 3 years that she has only been back with for 1 month. Here's the kicker, she has a 6 year old daughter...and he is not the father.
She tells me that everyone has told her this is a bad idea but she has prayed and feels God leading her in this direction. I tried talking since in to her, but she kept telling me that I need to be in her shoes to see her point of view. I remember when I was this naive. No one could talk sense in to me. I was set in my ways.
I blamed everyone for my problems but myself.
I think that everyone does. It's built in within our human nature to pass the blame on to others. Even Christians do it. They blame all their problems on the Devil or being persecuted because they are Christians.
I use to go to a Bible Study on Friday nights at Cameron's house and one hour would be spent on a lesson and then another hour was people going around the room talking about how they were persecuted for being a Christian. And trust me, some of the stories was a stretch to be considered persecution.
Example: There was a individual (who we will refer to as Mark) who was a parts runner for a company. On one run, one of Mark's co-workers asked him to pick up cigarettes at the store for him. Mark refused and explained to his co-worker that he can not because he thinks that smoking is a sin and he will not contribute to his bad habit.
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Anyway, upon return, Mark found that all his co-workers were making fun of him for not purchasing cigarettes. He was considering this persecution.
This is not persecution, this is you being annoying. You are pressing your personal convictions on others and just finding a reason to be loud and obnoxious. I will not take this as my own statement, but Lou Giglio said that "maybe people don't find Jesus annoying, they find you annoying."
How true. Maybe you passing out those tracks every day is just becoming irritating and when they think of Jesus, they think of you. Obnoxious and annoying.
We like to pass blame. When you lose our jobs, you blame that the "enemy" is attacking you on your job. Maybe it could because of you being late everyday? Maybe it could because your attitude. Maybe it could be because you could not do the job. Regardless, don't give the Devil more credit then he deserves.
We are a species designed to blame. Growing up as children, we automatically blame someone for something that we did. As adults, we do the same.
You would be surprised how many people will respect you more when you take ownership for your problems. I have finally come to grips with where my life was at 3 months ago and knew it was my problem An it was then that I started trusting in God's way and not my own that things started to turn around.
"For every mile you go in the wrong directions, turns out to be a 2 mile error"-Mark Batterson
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